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Things women not dare speak with their partners about
By: Anastasia Boico

Have you anyone to whom you can speak about everything what happens to you or comes to your mind? If you have, than perhaps you are a very happy woman.

Conceptually, we must be completely sincere with our beloved persons, unless we do something bad or think about something which must not make our partners happy. In fact, even the most loving and faithful partners have some hidden thoughts which are not to be discussed with the significant other. The vast majority of these thoughts are related to such a significant part of human life as sex. The reasons for such secrecy are various. Some women are afraid of misunderstanding, another ones are simply embarrassed or do not want to hurt their partners.

Whatever reason is behind your unwillingness to discuss your problems, always keep in mind that really good relationships have nothing to do with insincerity and distrust. In most cases sexual relationships involve two people, therefore there is no problem related to things happening in your bed you can cope with on your own. Let us make a brief overview of things and problems most people do not dare speak about with their significant others. Perhaps the information given below will give you a certain idea how to get rid of your complexes or shyness and begin trying to cope with your problems together with your partner.

Problem 1. I cannot say I want him to put on the condom

Indeed, this is one of the most crucial problems which prevent people from getting enjoyment from sexual relationships. Usually women who worry about sex safety are ashamed of asking their male partners to put on the condom. This is a common problem. As often as not people can speak about most intimate details of their sex life with anyone but the partner. No doubt, they do this in vain. Perhaps they understand this.

You want your sex to be safe, you want to be always healthy and you want your partner to be healthy too. As long as your sex contacts are not protected you will not relax and will always be worried. Can sexual relationships be pleasurable in this case? No they cannot. At least for you. Therefore muster up your courage and dare discuss this problem with your partner. Find necessary words to explain him that your willingness to protect yourself has nothing to do with distrust. Moreover, you worry not only about your health, but about his health and safety as well.

Be tactful, but persistent. Do not you know how to begin such a conversation. You can refer to an article you read, or to a TV program, or to one of your friend’s experience and then begin discussing the necessity of self protection.

Sincerely speaking, there is no guarantee your boyfriend will agree with you. Some guys are quite difficult to persuade. What should you do? Reconcile yourself to the situation? No. Suggest him finding another woman. Why the hell you need such a selfish boyfriend who does not care about your and his health?

Problem 2. You do not dare let him know you do not orgasm

Do you wish to experience this “unearthly enjoyment” you read about in books or magazine articles? But how can you achieve it if you pretend to be completely satisfied with your sexual relationships?

You are an adult person and you certainly know that problems cannot be solved by ignoring them. Your behavior is quite natural. You do not hurt your partner, you do not want to make him disappointed. But your will not get rid of your problems, unless you ask your boyfriend to help you. He will do everything to make you satisfied.

The main thing is to find out why you do not orgasm. May be you lack proper stimulation? Or may be your partner ejaculates too early? There are a lot of ways to overcome these obstacles. Ask your partner prolong foreplay or even suggest using some sex toys for additional stimulation. Do not you like this idea? May be you do not know what enjoyment sex toys can give you? The variety of sex toys is enormously great and you will certainly find one which will suit you. However, sex toys can be used not only for additional stimulation of your erogenous zones. Some of them, such as dildos and vibrators can perfectly substitute your partner’s penis in case of premature ejaculation or another kind of failure. Do not pretend you have orgasm! Do not look for another lover! Speak sincerely about your problems and desires. You together will certainly find a way out. Whatever solution you will find: applying to a doctor or using sex toys, you will find out that you should have discussed your problem long ago.

However, here is another problem.

May be you are ashamed of speaking about your wish to use sex toys?

Perhaps you think he will consider this too dissolute. Or you suppose he will be jealous when a sex toy penetrates you instead of his penis? There is nothing simplier to talk him into using sex toys. First of all, let him know you respect much those men who are eager to satisfy their women. Secondly, explain him that sex toys are designed not only for women’s pleasure, but for men’s one as well. You care for his pleasure, don’t you?